We talked to the psychologist Toni Mateo about happiness, sadness and things that happen throughout life.
We live in a medium that is constant, the way we spend the day collecting information (consciously and unconsciously). Depending on how we process this information, this will generate a series of emotions and thoughts that will allow us to obtain some results or others and a concrete way of functioning. This way of functioning represents how you take things and react to the difficulties that may arise throughout life.
Simple, right? Well, the problem is that this is becoming automated and if we are not aware of it we will not be able to change anything. We have to be very conscious of this process, says Toni, because this is what will allow us to adapt to the different situations that arise. What’s a mistake is saying phrases like, “This is the way I am and I can’t change it.” We have to be critical of ourselves and look at whether the conclusions we are reaching are automatically justified.
Toni Mateo comments that we don’t have to be afraid to feel negative emotions, because they are part of us. Living in a state of permanent happiness is idyllic and unreal. Negative emotions are very useful and necessary. If something happens to us, it’s normal for us to feel sad.
Sadness is nothing more than a state of our organism that produces a decrease in activity and provides us with the opportunity to reconsider things (it’s in our hand to take advantage of it or not). Of course, there are many ways to do this, you can start thinking about it and go into a spiral or, on the contrary, analyze, rationalize and reach new conclusions and points of view, and the most important thing to make decisions. That is why there are states of sadness, to formulate new objectives and motivate ourselves.